I agree to tell my truth, with compassion for myself and others, and to trust that others are doing the same.
I agree to listen respectfully to the communications of others and attune to their deepest meaning.
I agree to take responsibility for my feelings and how I react to the words and actions of others. And I agree to express those feelings in a spirit of openness and compassion.To Honor Each Person’s Process
I agree to acknowledge that everyone, including myself, is making the best possible choice or decision we are capable of at that moment. At the same time, if I see that person’s choice is hurting someone, including him or herself, I have a responsibility to engage in some kind of conflict resolution.
To Express Appreciation
I agree to appreciate others and myself.
To Cooperate with Others
I agree to maintain a sense of cooperation and caring in my interactions with others.
To Honor Our Differences
I understand that goals are often the same even though methods for achieving them may differ.
To Be Aware of Conflict
I agree to look for the unresolved issues within me that create a disproportionate adverse reaction to another’s behavior.
To Resolve Conflicts Constructively
I agree to take problems and complaints to the person(s) with whom I can resolve them, at the earliest opportunity. I agree not to criticize or complain to someone who cannot do something about my complaint, and I will redirect others to do the same. I will not say behind someone’s back what I am not willing to say to their face unless I have a very good reason not to trust someone. In that case, I will talk to someone designated to deal with conflict resolution who has mediation skills.
To Maintain Harmony
I will do my best to not take offense. I agree to take the time to establish rapport with others and then to reconnect with anyone with whom I feel out of harmony as soon as it is appropriate. I will do my best not to let the sun go down on my anger or irritation.
To Freely Participate
I agree to freely choose participate in the Monastery. If I get to a point where I think this community is not the best for me, I will communicate as soon as possible to explore through a designated process.
To Lighten Up!
I agree to allow fun and joy in my relationships, my work, and my life.
